Healing Trauma with Sexy Smokes
The origin of Sexy Smokes
When I first started making smoking blends, people asked me to make one with Damiana. Damiana is a popular smoking herb, historically used as an aphrodisiac. People seek out aphrodisiacs for numerous reasons. Sometimes folx just want to feel more sexual because sex is fun! Maybe they aren't feeling sexual enough because of health issues, stress or other people's opinions.
To make the Sexy Smokes herbal smoking blend more holistic and healthy, I added in herbs to promote grounding & healing from trauma (blackberry and hibiscus). I also included rose to help support emotional healing and heart-healthy sexual decision making. Mullein is always there is my smoking blends to protect those lungs. The combined effect is an experience of enjoyment that tends to be more grounded and embodied than, say, the loss of inhibitions and freeing of sexual expression one might experience from alcohol or mj.
Properties of Hibiscus that I love and value
This plant works to unblock the first and second chakras. It has been known to help release long-held scars from sexual trauma. This plant can also help unwind bound up creative forces within the womb area and facilitate creative and sexual flow.
My first experience with Hibiscus
I took hibiscus and tuned into its medicine for the first time when I was having some trouble dealing with body image issues and connecting to my sexuality after the birth of my daughter. I was uncomfortable with my post-baby belly: once flat and smooth, it had become soft and flabby.
While in deep meditation, I felt the beautiful reds and fuschia colors of this plant in my pelvis and was visited by a bear. This female bear had a soft and loose belly, too. Feeling connected with this amazing bear energy reminded me that we are animals also. We are animals that use our bodies to have fun, to have pleasure, to create life--and so many other things besides looking hot! I loved bringing my daughter into the world, and it no longer seemed necessary to love my body less for doing so. My belly is still soft and mushy, but now I love it. My valuation of myself and sense of pleasure transitioned to being more internal. I LOVED this experience.
There are many reasons why a so-called "pink viagra" is desired for women. Sexy Smokes are fun for all genders but, I had women's needs in the forefront of my mind when creating this blend. Sexy Smokes are intended to do more than get you "in the mood." They are intended to be healing, so we can experience some of the more pleasant aspects of our animal body. Some experience these smokes as relaxing or having a mild buzz, others experience sexual arousal, but almost everyone says they feel more grounded and confident. I don't know how you can feel ready and excited about sexy time (solo or whatever!) without that.